Perhaps you know that living alone is not the first choice anyone would consider. A lot of us will automatically desire to be with people who appreciate and value our worth. There is this sense of fulfillment when we surround ourselves with individuals that we can get along quickly. We feel alive when these people share things with us. That includes the personal stories they have, the affection they feel, as well as the considerations they need to go through for us. But for my personal preferences, here are the reasons why I love to hang out with different people.
I Get To Be Happy – We all feel happy when we surround ourselves with the right people. This sense of belongingness makes us believe that individuals are born for each other. For me, other individuals make me happy because I can be myself with them. I can laugh and cry anytime I want. I can share unforgettable memories with the people who stick around. There is a feeling of self-worth that makes me thankful for the people. “By building a list of people that you trust, with whom you can talk to in times of need, you allow yourself a strong sense of not being alone.” David Klow, a licensed therapist said.
I Learn A Lot Of Experiences – Having people around does not mean they should represent a complete positivity. Sometimes, those people who are toxic also signify a role in your life. I spend time with people even though I know I can get emotionally and mentally hurt because I want to learn from them. I want to understand what it feels like to be surrounded by negative energy so that I can create a solution for different situations. I want to become more aware of people’s personality that often harms others.
I Understand Myself Even Better – Being surrounded by different people is sometimes too much to handle. There are pressure, inconsistencies, lies, and drama everywhere. But the point of wanting to get involved with them is the fact of understanding myself. I want people to surround me so that I can see and evaluate myself towards them. I want to know my capabilities and limitations as to where I can put up with my life decisions. Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC, once said, “Your environment, both your social and natural surroundings, can greatly impact how you feel.” Therefore, surrounding myself with different individuals make me acknowledge my flaws and insecurities as well.
I Can Value My Purpose – There is nothing that holds me in becoming the person I am right now. Thanks to those people who made me realize that I serve to please nobody. I spend time with them not only for happiness and great moments, but to also value my purpose in life. Together with the right or wicked influence people, I get to see myself even better. There is self-love. I get to know what the things I should and should not do for people and for myself too. I believe in Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. when she said, “Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.”
There is nothing sinful with spending time with people. But if their presence is not worth having around, we should consider changing our preference. I like everyone because I believe I cannot live without them. But I will not tolerate the damages they can cause me along the process of me trying to become better.