Most of the time, people love to judge stay-at-home moms. Whether it’s because of their personality or their lifestyle, there is a comment about them. What’s more is that some people ask about their “way of life” due to curiosity, these questions to them are highly insulting.
Staying at home with your child or children is a very noble thing to do. Not all parents have the capability to do that. They would rather earn money than to take care of their kids full time. That’s because it’s stressful and exhausting since kids tend to be messy and let’s face it, they can make us lose our patience.
So, if you encounter a stay-at-home mom, be nice. They have the most challenging job in the whole world.
As for you, a stay-at-home mom, try to relax. Here are ten ways on how to avoid the mommy blues and find comfort within yourself.
Think Outings, Not Hibernation
“Whether you suffer from seasonal affective disorder or not, the evidence is strong that getting outside just for a little bit can be very helpful.” Andrea Bonior, PhD, clinical psychologist advises. Go on daily outings with your kids. It doesn’t have to be expensive. You can go to the park or museum instead of buying costly gadgets or toys. It will be good for you too since you can go out and see new things.
Enforce Quiet Time
It’s heaven when a child finally goes to nap. It’s even better when more than one of your kids’ rest but when the older kid wakes up, that might be broken. To prevent this, have a quiet time and teach them all about the “quiet play” method.
Get Adult Stimulation
You do not have to be a mother all by yourself. In fact, motherhood is not meant to be experienced or done alone. Try to go to events wherein you can talk to other moms or adults like a club in your neighborhood. Talk to your husband at night too. Connect with him when he’s home.
Start A Hobby
Our brains need intellectual stimulation once in a while. This can be done by having a creative hobby. Try to take up writing, painting or knitting. Think of what you used to love to do or what you want to try to do and then, just go for it.
Just because you’re a mom now doesn’t mean you can’t continue learning. Learning keeps you on your toes. You can try to learn more about cooking or gardening. If you want to pick up blogging, you can do that too. “When you challenge yourself to learn a new skill, you are building your intellectual health. People who pay attention to their intellectual wellness often find that they have better concentration, improved memory, and better critical thinking skills.” Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC said.
Give Yourself A Sense Of Accomplishment
People get a sense of achievement when they finish something because there is praise. If you miss that feeling again, you can try to do new things like volunteering. You can also visit your neighbors and talk to them. “You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. explains.
Schedules are good because they keep you organized. But kids somehow find a way always to change programs even if you have already gotten used to it. But for your own plan, you should try to create your own. Like, make a list on when you’ll do grocery shopping or when to go out.
It might always be tiring to keep the house organized, but it’s essential to get your home in control always. So that it won’t take too long, try to do quick cleaning before each meal. You can even teach your kids how to help in the cleanup.
Do Something Special With The Kids
No one wants to have their kids whining. You can fix that by taking them out or bonding with them since whining is caused by boredom and loneliness.
Do Something Crazy Fun
Surprise yourself by doing something you usually don’t do. Do something that you or your kids haven’t done before. While schedules are important, it’s also good to keep a little spontaneity in life. Try going to casual outings to the zoo or the beach.
Staying at home is usually seen negatively by others. But it’s a hidden blessing in disguise. You get to watch your kids grow into teens and then adults. Don’t settle for feeling lonely or bored at home. Plan a good life even while you’re staying at home.